How to find a hobby as an adult.
I know sissy! It sounds so funny that you even have to search ways on how to find your hobby! Don't worry, a lot are just not admitting that they need some helpful tips to find a thing or two that they will enjoy. But trust me, you are on the right start and you will thank me later!
Before I go through the details of finding what you would love to do, let us address first some common issues related to it.
So why is a hobby important? We hear it from a lot of people and it is becoming a common question from people that you just met whether at gatherings or on your fave dating app. So, is the purpose of having a hobby to be able to answer these newfound peers? Or to be able to have a daily instagram post of your new lululemon leggings while at the gym? Well, the best reasons to do it is to improve your skills, gain more knowledge, stay healthy, relieve your stress, keep focused and gain friends. And if you're lucky, some people even make a decent amount of money by just doing the things that they love!
Why a lot of people stopped doing what they started, or jump from one thing to another until they surrendered in seeking for a hobby to love? It is because they just jumped on the bandwagon of millennials doing a hobby just for the sake of having a hobby.
I feel you! I personally had struggled in fighting my boredom. I was at a point when I was so bored but I didn't know what to do! I was depressed because I felt that I was wasting a lot of time by aimlessly scrolling and clicking on my phone instead of doing something more fun that could also benefit me. Finding a long-term hobby as an adult can be difficult due to many factors. And these factors are the ones that we will be addressing on my secret on how I found the thing that I love doing right now, which is guess what ---- blogging!
So, without further ado, here are the things that I had to consider in finding my hobby:
1. Make a list. Write down at least 5-10 of the things that you are interested to do. Try to brainstorm the things that you have tried before which you really liked, or something you watched or heard that you want to do. You could also consider the skills and things you are good at in making a list. Now from this list we will narrow it down by considering the factors on the next items.
2. Time. Yup, you need to make sure that you have enough time for this new "distraction." I heard from so many friends that they stopped after just a few weeks of starting their new hobby because they cannot allow time for it. So make a timeline of your daily routine and see the length of vacant time you have, then compare it with the amount of time this new interest you are eyeing at will consume you. Of course if it's just reading a book, you could do it in the comfort of your home from a few minutes up to a few hours daily. But if it's something like joining a spin class, you have to estimate the travel time, getting ready, and the actual class for the total amount it will take.
3. Money. Yes girl, unless you only want to play mobile games or read free e-books from your phone, you would need money from a few dollars to $$$$ depending on what your new obsession is. Do not get a gym membership if you could barely pay rent and have to use your credit card and only The One from above knows when you could pay it. It is not bad to choose an expensive interest as long as you don't have to skip a meal or borrow money just to do it. Research about this hobby to see how much it would possibly cost you. Most of the time, it is more than what you think. So if you want to go to the gym, it is not just the gym membership, it is also workout outfit, shoes, accesories, gas, etc. A lot of people had to leave the things they love to do cause they just can't keep up with the expenses anymore.
4. Physical capability. I was a long distance runner before and would often run 10-15 miles. Sadly, I had to stop due to a lower back injury. So if you have a health condition that could possibly get worse by doing a certain thing, then move on to the next interest on your list.
5. Check for availabillity or feasibility. Erase quickly from your list if the thing you want is not possible or available from where you live. Don't choose hiking if you live on huge flat land like Southeast Texas or blogging if you are in the middle of nowhere that barely has internet signal. The closer it is to you and the easier to access it, the more chances that you will maintain it. There was a point in 2017-2018 when I hiked mountains eventhough I lived in a big city. That said, I could only do it on the weekends. But, having to travel so far just to reach the jumpstart area is already energy and time consuming so I always ended up wore out plus the fact that it costed me a lot of money for the transportation.
6. Is it healthy for you? A lot of pastimes are fun yet unhealthy like playing video games for hours everyday. Many would even forget their meals and would even hold their pee until their kidneys are almost exploding. On any hobby you do, take it moderately and on a healthy level so it would end up positively.
After ticking the boxes from the above items, I hope you still have a couple that are left , lol! If not, add more items to your list and evaluate it again. Once you are satisfied with the remaining hobbies on your checklist, try to evaluate the last item below:
7. Happiness. Will it make you happy and even feel achieved by the end of the day, or will it just make you physically/mentally exhausted and stressed? I would play mobile games here and there and there was this one game I quit playing (I can't even remember the name cause it was almost 10 years ago, lol). I noticed that I was always mad and stressed while playing it because I got frustrated when I lost my lives on the game. So not because you like doing something means it makes you happy (such as staying with your boyfriend that you love who keeps cheating on you! Joke). If a hobby makes you feel challenged yet frustrated and stressed, stop doing it! You might even bring these negative emotions after doing which could negatively affect your life.
Now here is a bonus, chica! After you have found your hobby, how would you maintain it? --- Find connections and/or make friends. Join classes, community, organization and groups (online or not) related to your interest. A lot of times, we stay in a place, work, school and relationships because of the people we are with. So if finding peers on these helped you stay, then it will surely work the same way with your hobby too! Okay, I had a lot of talking and it is time for me to do my favorite hobby --- to annoy my husband! (he is watching his fave show on tv! lol) Let me know in the comments how you found your hobby so I could also learn from you!